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We were (in the funeral procession) of one of the daughters of the Prophet (ﷺ) and he was sitting by the
side of the grave. I saw his eyes shedding tears. He said, "Is there anyone among you who did not
have sexual relations with his wife last night?" Abu Talha replied in the affirmative. And so the
Prophet told him to get down in the grave. And so he got down in her grave.
Sahih al-Bukhari Book 23, Hadith 45
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The daughter of the Prophet (p.b.u.h) sent (a messenger) to the Prophet (ﷺ) requesting him to come as her
child was dying (or was gasping), but the Prophet (ﷺ) returned the messenger and told him to convey his
greeting to her and say: "Whatever Allah takes is for Him and whatever He gives, is for Him, and
everything with Him has a limited fixed term (in this world) and so she should be patient and hope for
Allah's reward." She again sent for him, swearing that he should come. The Prophet (ﷺ) got up, and so did
Sa`d bin 'Ubada, Mu`adh bin Jabal, Ubai bin Ka`b, Zaid bin Thabit and some other men. The child
was brought to Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) while his breath was disturbed in his chest (the sub-narrator thinks that
Usama added: ) as if it was a leather water-skin. On that the eyes of the Prophet (p.b.u.h) started
shedding tears. Sa`d said, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)! What is this?" He replied, "It is mercy which Allah has
lodged in the hearts of His slaves, and Allah is merciful only to those of His slaves who are merciful
(to others).
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One of the daughters of `Uthman died at Mecca. We went to attend her funeral procession. Ibn `Umar
and Ibn `Abbas were also present. I sat in between them (or said, I sat beside one of them. Then a man
came and sat beside me.) `Abdullah bin `Umar said to `Amr bin `Uthman, "Will you not prohibit
crying as Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) has said, 'The dead person is tortured by the crying of his relatives.?" Ibn
`Abbas said, "`Umar used to say so." Then he added narrating, "I accompanied `Umar on a journey
from Mecca till we reached Al-Baida. There he saw some travelers in the shade of a Samura (A kind
of forest tree). He said (to me), "Go and see who those travelers are." So I went and saw that one of
them was Suhaib. I told this to `Umar who then asked me to call him. So I went back to Suhaib and
said to him, "Depart and follow the chief of the faithful believers." Later, when `Umar was stabbed,
Suhaib came in weeping and saying, "O my brother, O my friend!" (on this `Umar said to him, "O
Suhaib! Are you weeping for me while the Prophet (ﷺ) said, "The dead person is punished by some of the
weeping of his relatives?" Ibn `Abbas added, "When `Umar died I told all this to Aisha and she said,
'May Allah be merciful to `Umar. By Allah, Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) did not say that a believer is punished by
the weeping of his relatives. But he said, Allah increases the punishment of a non-believer because of
the weeping of his relatives." Aisha further added, "The Quran is sufficient for you (to clear up this
point) as Allah has stated: 'No burdened soul will bear another's burden.' " (35.18). Ibn `Abbas then
said, "Only Allah makes one laugh or cry." Ibn `Umar did not say anything after that.