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Um Habiba said to Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) "We have heard that you want to marry Durra bint Abu-Salama."
Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "Can she be married along with Um Salama (her mother)? Even if I have not
married Um Salama, she would not be lawful for me to marry, for her father is my foster brother."
Sahih al-Bukhari Book 67, Hadith 59
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`Umar bin Al-Khattab said, "When Hafsa bint `Umar became a widow after the death of (her husband)
Khunais bin Hudhafa As-Sahmi who had been one of the companions of the Prophet, and he died at
Medina. I went to `Uthman bin `Affan and presented Hafsa (for marriage) to him. He said, "I will
think it over.' I waited for a few days, then he met me and said, 'It seems that it is not possible for me
to marry at present.' " `Umar further said, "I met Abu Bakr As-Siddique and said to him, 'If you wish,
I will marry my daughter Hafsa to you." Abu Bakr kept quiet and did not say anything to me in reply.
I became more angry with him than with `Uthman. I waited for a few days and then Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)
asked for her hand, and I gave her in marriage to him. Afterwards I met Abu Bakr who said, 'Perhaps
you became angry with me when you presented Hafsa to me and I did not give you a reply?' I said,
'Yes.' Abu Bakr said, 'Nothing stopped me to respond to your offer except that I knew that Allah's
Apostle had mentioned her, and I never wanted to let out the secret of Allah's Messenger (ﷺ). And if Allah's
Apostle had refused her, I would have accepted her.' "
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"Hint your intention of marrying' is made by
saying (to the widow) for example: "I want to marry, and I wish that Allah will make a righteous lady
available for me.' " Al-Qasim said: One may say to the widow: 'I hold all respect for you, and I am
interested in you; Allah will bring you much good, or something similar 'Ata said: One should hint his
intention, and should not declare it openly. One may say: 'I have some need. Have good tidings. Praise
be to Allah; you are fit to remarry.' She (the widow) may say in reply: I am listening to what you say,'
but she should not make a promise. Her guardian should not make a promise (to somebody to get her
married to him) without her knowledge. But if, while still in the Iddat period, she makes a promise to
marry somebody, and he ultimately marries her, they are not to be separated by divorce (i.e., the
marriage is valid).